Do you know what your values are? Many of us don’t think before we act. We don’t take stock at why we act out in sheer habit. We are too busy to reflect and, rather, we respond reflexively. We act automatically.
- Most problem behaviors happen because we are trying to achieve relaxation and assertion.
- Most cravings, such as alcohol, food and drink, are usually from boredom, anxiety and your current social situation.
- Habitual habits, over time, can become unconscious and spontaneous – eating, drinking, smoking, getting angry, scared and depressed without even knowing why you’re doing what you are doing.
Take the time to stop and look at what is going on. Reflect to create awareness. Find the reasons for your immediate behavior. What benefits are you getting? What is it costing you?
See yourself 10, 20 or 30 years in the future. Continuing the habit, what are you doing? Who are you with? How is your health? Really picture what is possible with a behavior that does not serve you.
Now imagine how you would think and feel about yourself if you did change. What does it look like? Who are you being? What are you doing?
Self-reevaluation is about taking stock emotionally and cognitively. Self-reevaluation will reveal that your essential values are in conflict with your problem behaviors. Try it. What do you have to lose?