What Is No Longer Serving You?
Are there relationships that are not serving you? Do you need to close some doors to serve you better or even to help you heal? Paulo Coelho stated, “Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.”
I Choose Sanity
Change can be tough, but closing doors can be a tougher thing to do especially with people that we care for, but to salvage our sanity, safety, and spirituality, we may need to close the door to the people that suck the living energy out of us in order to rise higher than we are now – to be who we are intended to be. If you want to elevate yourself to the next level, you cannot hang with others that are always bickering and complaining or belittling and harassing. No matter how much you try, eventually, this lower level energy will get to you. You will not be able to sustain your higher energy source.
Salvage Your Energy
Time-and-again, I have heard the words that “no one can make you feel bad; only you can do this to yourself.” These individuals state that “you must take responsibility for your own happiness.” Yes, this is true, but it’s much more easier said than done. Controlling your way of being around people that are constantly griping may not always be the solution. This takes tremendous effort and energy which can leave you feeling exhausted and depleted. It’s obvious that these people are not serving you, and you need to find a way to reduce this type of energy. If people are constantly complaining, you may want to reconsider who you are hanging out with. Otherwise, you will need to have a conversation around this topic and then set some boundaries.
Definitely, there are exceptions to this and you cannot just end relationships and move on. For instance, perhaps you have an ill parent or child. You cannot walk away from the heavy energy of hardship when it is someone you care deeply for. This is where you need to take a different route to sustain your higher energy level. You must find avenues in your life that you are grateful for. Sometimes they are difficult to conjure up in a time of grief, pain and frustration, but they are there. Look for them, as small as they may seem.
Different relationships need different tactics. Do you need to close some doors that are not serving you to serve you better or to help you heal? Do you need to set boundaries? Or do you need to foster a heart of gratefulness?