Socrates stated, “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new,” however, to build the new, you first need to clean up your past by creating awareness to why you do the things you do and then insert new positive habits.
To Change, Deal With Your Past
It’s hard to grow and change when you keep looking at the past and fighting with it. What I mean by this is that you must do the work to heal your past so that you can move forward. Instead of having half of your energy focused on building the new and the other half focused on dealing with past events, why not first heal your past and then commit to building the new. This is a better way to be more productive. Why? Because you will be more focused on fulfilling your higher vision and more present to the moment. At the same time, you don’t get stumped over and over again returning to your past because you didn’t deal with it fully, losing your attention to what you are doing in the present.
To Change, You Need A Strategy
It drives me wild when people so simply say to just stop fighting the old; to get on with life; and to let go without any sort of a strategy. It’s easy to tell others what to do, but if you can’t give them a plan, then you’re clearly judging and preaching. When you have habitual patterns that you are unaware of that are dictating how you live today, you first need to dive deep into your inner-world to achieve clarity on how you are behaving and how you are reacting. You cannot change what you don’t see or what you don’t know, plain and simple!
Change Is A Process
Change is hard, but that is NOT the only reason people don’t do it. First and foremost, you need awareness; you need desire; and you need to make a commitment. Change also requires effort, daily effort to change old patterns. It takes time, and it’s hard work. I’ve been doing it for a couple of decades, and I am still doing it. For me, to commit to a lifetime of change, I needed to accept it as part of my whole being, not something that happens on occasion. I did this by searching the world around me for clues of change. I needed to integrate the word and the idea of change with life on a deeper level.
Change Is Normal In Nature
Think about nature to integrate change as a natural process. We have many physical and chemical changes that occur in nature (as well as our body). For instance, the seasons in which the old growth dies in the fall and new growth is born in the spring. Our water in which a liquid can convert to either a solid or a gas. The ecosystem and geography, too, are always changing as animals migrate and fires and storms occur, respectively. You know all of this, and I don’t have to even mention it. Yet, sometimes it is a good idea to bring it up because we can get stuck in our ways. We need reminders, on occasion, that life is about change, from birth to death, and when we get stuck in our way or lose self-awareness, we lose insight and we lose our happiness. We, basically, just survive.
Building the New
So as Socrates stated (not Dan Millman), the secret to change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new. However, you must first clean up your past, create awareness to why you do the things you do, and then insert new positive habits. From this point, you can focus all of your energy on building the new!